Say #METOO to Jesus – Part 3
From Victim to Victor:
One Woman’s Testimony of Healing Through Faith
(Continued from Say #METOO to Jesus: Part 2)
I cannot tell you the day or the hour, as I can point to the day of my conversion to Christ, but one day it happened. Suddenly, I liked me. I knew I was valuable. I was a daughter of the king of kings, Jesus Christ. I knew I was forgiven by God, and I knew He loved me, and that I was worthy of His love, because Jesus had sacrificed Himself for me. I knew it, like I knew it. I knew it deep down in my soul. I could no longer remember the self-loathing I’d once felt, or the broken behaviors that went with self-loathing. They went away too. I couldn’t remember the hatred I felt toward others who’d mistreated or abused me in some way. I spent time in specific prayers for forgiveness of self and others, and suddenly I didn’t hate them anymore, I felt empathy for the pain that caused them to victimize others. And I prayed for them.
As I was trained for ministry, I also went through personal coaching with an excellent Christian counselor. I found that experience to be very useful to help sort through issues that needed to be dealt with from a psychological perspective. Great counseling can be part of the emotional healing process, at the right time, particularly when the Holy Spirit guides it, for a finite time and a specific purpose. Through counseling and personal study, I learned to set healthier boundaries, and learned to keep myself emotionally (and physically) safe and away from abusive, unrepentant people. When you learn how highly God values you, you value yourself. Soon you also begin to require those who have a habit pattern of mistreating you, to treat you with respect.
A Renewed Mind
My thought-life which for years, even after I’d come to faith in Jesus Christ, had been plagued by unpleasant memories and impure thoughts, was cleansed too. I learned to pray and declare and take hold of the word of God in order to renew my mind and thinking about myself and my relationships. One day, I no longer struggled with the temptations or flashbacks I’d once faced. They were gone too. Through the repeated application of God’s Word, prayer, personal repentance and accountability, my inner thought-life was purified. The living, cleansing power of the Holy Spirit, had renewed my mind, just as Saint Paul urges in Romans 12:2. In short, I learned what the Bible teaches, that I can take “every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.” (2 Cor. 10:5) I have maintained that healing too, for many years. It’s real, it’s lasting and it’s transformational.It’s God’s amazing grace. It’s sweet.
A Healed Heart
I believe that I have experienced the promise that Isaiah prophesied in Isaiah 61:1-3, and that Jesus Christ claimed to fulfill in Luke 4:18-19, the healing of the broken-heart. With it comes the emotional freedom that only faith in Jesus Christ can bring. To clarify, it is Jesus Christ’s sacrificial death on the cross, burial, resurrection from the dead, ascension and sending of the Holy Spirit that makes this sort of inner healing possible. In short, my relationship with God, through my faith in Jesus Christ His Son, and the daily presence of the Holy Spirit in my life has healed me from the inside out.
From Victim to Victor
I no longer have hatred, bitterness or unforgiveness toward those who’ve victimized me or toward myself. I don’t take responsibility for the choices of others, only mine. I don’t live in fear. I live in faith. I don’t struggle with self-hatred or any of its ugly, attendant behaviors. I don’t live in shame-filled condemnation over the difficulties of the past, or past choices that I can’t change. I’m free. My thought-life is pure and peaceful, even in the midst of the difficulties of this life, and I’ve faced some major difficulties in the ensuing years. I have a deep-seated joy that never leaves. I came to know the one who brings real justice. The true Justice-of-the-Peace: Jesus Christ the Prince of Peace.
From Prosecutor to Preacher
I now spend the majority of my time bringing the hope, help and healing of God’s Word to others, through books, blogs and speaking to anyone who is willing to listen. And I’m happy and fulfilled in so doing. In short, I went from victim to victor through my daily, personal, vibrant, living, all-encompassing relationship with Jesus Christ, my Lord and Savior. Through His Holy Spirit’s powerful, peaceful, palpable presence in my life each day, I am truly victorious in this life, and will live eternally with him in heaven when my life here is over. My smile now comes from a well of inner joy that Jesus Christ put deep down in my soul.
Jesus The Gentleman
When I finally said #metoo to Jesus, I met the Jesus of the New Testament. I met Jesus, the perfect gentleman, who loved me more than anything. I met:
I met the lover of my soul whose love is pure.
Holy Love Speaks Truth
Incidentally, because of his holy love, He did not (and He does not) sugarcoat my sin. He spoke the truth. He called it out. Just like He called out sin in the New Testament. He called me to repentance. He did not sugar coat the sin of those who’d hurt me either. He empowered me to forgive them. He never, ever, ever calls evil good. He invited me into a deep, abiding, real, raw, relationship with Him. We have worked through a lot of painful stuff over the years, through a lot of tears. His Word is a mirror to the soul that will shine on the broken places within us, when empowered by His Holy Spirit, and heal us. When we stop hiding from Him and we invite Him to forgive us, cleanse us, deliver us and set us free, Jesus the gentleman is happy to become Jesus the lover and liberator of the soul.
If you are looking for someone to tell you that your sin, is fine, and that you are a ‘poor victim’ who cannot ‘help it’, don’t look to Jesus Christ. Read, for example, about Jesus’ encounter with the Samaritan Woman (also known as the Woman at the Well) in John 4. I named my blog after her because she is my heroine (that is the feminine form of hero — not the street drug, by the way). She was a broken, wounded woman with a major sin problem. She had a truth encounter with Jesus and it set her free. It also empowered her to go tell others about His love. His pure, truth-filled, powerful love sets captives like she and I free. You can read my take on her story at Http://janetdecaster.com/blog in my first post, “Why A Samaritan Woman Speaks?” Jesus said, “I am the way, the TRUTH, and the life, and no one gets to the Father in heaven, except through Me.” (John 14:6) Jesus speaks the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
The Fallen Away
Some, who consider themselves Christians, in this day, will try to tell you that sexual immorality is okay. It’s not now, and never has been. They have fallen away from Biblical truth. You won’t find healing there, only more slavery. Sin is sin. Sin enslaves the soul. Read the Bible. That’s how you can tell what a “real” Church is, by the way. Read the New Testament. All of it. (Or listen to it on a Bible App every day if you are not a great reader). John 8:32 states, “And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
Free from Shame
We do not have to hide our sin, or the sins others have committed against us, in the shadows of shame from Jesus. He knows it all, and will forgive it all, and help us to forgive others who have harmed us. But that is NOT because He gives us (or them) a ‘pass’ on our sin. When invited to do so, He will help us to be set free from the bondage of sin through repentance (that means to face it, admit it, confess it and turn away from it with the empowering help of the Holy Spirit). Real repentance of our sin sets us free from slavery to sin. Real forgiveness of sins committed against us opens the door for US to get out of the prison of pain, shame, secrecy and fear. The result of both is that WE are FREE.
Free from self-hatred.
Free from hatred of others.
Free from bitterness.
Free from fear.
Free from dysfunctional behaviors.
Free from slavery to sins of all sorts.
Free from our phony Churchy-smile-masks. FREE!
A Gentleman Who Waits to Be Invited Into Our Hearts
Jesus the perfect gentleman, will never force His kind of healing love on us. He does not hate women. He does not abuse women. He heals and empowers women. He gives Godly women a powerful voice. He does not hate men. He does not abuse men. He heals and empowers men. He gives Godly men a powerful voice. Together, empowered by the Holy Spirit, they can bring God’s healing truth to others. Male or female, victimizer or victim, He simply stands quietly on the sidelines of our lives until we invite Him in as:
In short, Jesus wants ALL of us. Our entire life. And He can heal ALL of us. Our entire being. But He always waits to be invited. Jesus won’t force himself on you, me or anyone else.
How About You?
How about you? What God has done for me, He will do for anyone else who sincerely seeks Him and continues to seek Him. Both the victims of sexual harassment (or sexual assault) and their victimizers can find total healing at the cross of Jesus Christ. His kind of healing is available to all. And it’s free. No legal fees attached. No court costs. It’s freely available to all who ask God. Harassed or harasser, victim or victimizer; all can be transformed to victors, through a living faith in Jesus Christ and the empowering presence of His Holy Spirit. Lawsuits and court systems* can’t bring that kind of healing and freedom. Only the Holy Spirit can. Maybe it’s time for you to meet the only true Justice-of-the-Peace. He is the one who brings true justice and true peace. Jesus Christ, the Prince of Peace.
Might I suggest that you SAY #METOO TO JESUS? He is as close as a heart-felt prayer and He’s waiting to hear from you!
Luke 4:18-19 (NKJV)
“The Spirit of the Lord is upon Me,
Because He has anointed Me
To preach the gospel to the poor;
He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted,
To proclaim liberty to the captives
And recovery of sight to the blind,
To set at liberty those who are oppressed;
To proclaim the acceptable year of the Lord.”
SHARING: Please share this “Say #METOO to Jesus” blog series with others via social media to help the hurting hearts in your world! I’d love to come and share my story with your group and pray for God’s healing love to restore hearts.
* Note: There are many powerful Christian ministries, resources and revival movements in the Body of Christ helping to set captives free in a practical way and bring healing to hurting hearts in our day. From powerful charismatic revival meetings to inner healing prayer ministries to anti-human trafficking ministries to evangelical recovery ministries or Christian drug treatment programs, the true Church is a place of healing. There is healing help available at many powerful, Bible-believing, Holy Spirit-empowered local churches and other specialized ministries. Jesus is the one to deliver anyone who sincerely seeks Him, from evil. A few of those great resources where you can get to know Jesus’ and experience His healing power are as follows:
The Alpha Course
Elijah House Ministries
International Justice Mission
Joyce Meyer Ministries has a great book “Beauty for Ashes” and other great resources
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